If nothing else, they have superb self-control.As you can see, gay porn is becoming one of the most visited genres on the Internet, and the truth is that the population does well because they get more than hot, we can enjoy sex in all its variations in a spectacular way, because inside what networks are, porn above all, what keeps the latter alive is the variety of scenes that come from the tastes of consumers. I have no idea how they live their entire lifetimes in duality. I lived in the closet from the age of 14 to 22 and that itself felt like so many deaths. But the more I talk to them, the more I’ve come to realise that my initial disgust towards them has turned into empathy. They’ll tell you right at the start of the chat that they are married and if that’s an issue, to kindly block their profile and move on. Over time, several married men on dating apps have developed a thick shell. But at the same time, I also know men who just couldn’t make it work and ended up separating nonetheless.
Since marriage laws and spousal benefits for queer people don’t exist, they end up resorting to the best-case scenario someone in the closet could deal with: marrying a woman. My friend also agrees that given the rate at which queer rights are progressing in India, they’d rather stick to a partner who would see them through old age. And who is really to blame here? The men for succumbing to societal pressures and not daring to come out, irrespective of whether they happen to be gay or bi? Or is the LGBTQ+ community at fault for not being more accepting of other narratives and shaming married men? We do have brave voices like Professor Pratulananda Das from Kolkata, who is opening up about his side of the story and how he came out to his sons. They usually have no idea that their partner is on dating apps, looking to have sex with other men, while sex between them might be almost non-existent. You gotta wonder though: How does he plan to hold on to a full-grown woman who is fully married to him, while also hoping to have a full-blown boyfriend by the side? How does it make sense? Well, it doesn’t.
My heart sank because he texted me the next day, “I want us to be more.” Well, three is “more” than two if you think about it. But thanks to the wonders of Truecaller and Facebook, I could track him down and see his wife plastered in all the display pictures. One other dude didn’t even tell me he has a wife.
You should meet him some time,” one has said, taking my calling him ‘Daddy’ to a meta level. There are several who don’t tell you about it till you’re done orgasming all over them. When I look back now though, I have to give that guy props for at least being real about how he thought about the whole situation, including the fact that he didn’t need to hide his marriage from me. At 19, this isn’t the kind of shit a burgeoning queer kid should have been subjected to. That is why men like me go for other men.” At that moment, I remember thinking that this was bullshit considering the last time I'd checked, both men and women had buttholes. So does it matter if it’s a man or a woman you’re sleeping with?” I was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt but he continued, “See, buddy, after childbirth, a woman’s vagina isn’t firm enough for a lot of guys.
Why dip your beak outside then? Well, as he tried to rationalise it, “Men across the spectrum cheat. This man has a wife, and together, they have a kid. I was rather bewildered when I found out, but also intrigued. In all honesty though, I wished he’d shown me the ring on his finger instead of the one on his cock. The first time I met a married dude, I didn’t even know he was married. Many gay men I know, including myself, have gotten their hearts broken at the hands of men married to women, with many swearing off this category altogether after having their hopes dashed over and over.